About Elke Babicki, Author of Making the Connections

Q & A

Q: Elke can you speak about your Dad?
A: Spiritually, he grew tremendously by staying in Germany. He gave people another chance to do right by him, even though, just a few years previously, a large group of Germans had sought to destroy him. He was an uncanny judge of character and determined very quickly whom he can trust. He married Ottilie, my German Catholic mother, and an elegant and deeply intuitive woman. He made the best choice with her. There are some people that are old even when they are young, just by their attitude. My parents always were the opposite – youthful in spirit, accepting, with open minds and keen intelligence for the universe. They followed their path with enthusiasm and passion and they took such good care of one another. My dad called himself a modern man. They always stuck up for each other and are there for each other through good times and bad. Just like we say we will be when we marry.

“How can you stand living in Germany now, Dad?” I asked him years ago.
“The farmer who found me fed me, clothed me, and risked his life for me. This was only the first of all the Germans who have helped me since.

What it has taught me, though, is to discriminate.” “Discriminate amongst the Germans?” I asked. “This is not about the Germans. It is not about Jews or Poles or any other race. It is about people – people who have it in their hearts to help and those who only want to hurt others. I look at each person’s character and then I choose whom to be with.” This has always been his message.

Q: Elke can you speak about meeting your husband?
A: I decided to apply the same principles of visualisation to finding a mate I would be happy to share my life with. I wrote out the physical, spiritual and emotional characteristics of the man I would marry. I realized all my relationships had fallen short on the commitment component, for different reasons. I knew I would rather live alone than compromise important factors like physical attraction, mutual understanding and support, monogamy or a sense of humour. It was not always easy to stay on track with my ideals, when faced with temptation to engage in a better than nothing relationship. This time, I decided that I was going to stay firm and not let myself get serious with anyone who did not uphold these criteria.

I met Matt in 1989 in a workshop. I was hired by his company to provide executive coaching and succession planning. One of my first assignments was to do an assessment of Matt for his advancement in the company. When he entered the room, I was unaware he was the candidate for the assessment. I had an uncanny response to his arrival - uncanny, because it was strangely familiar. I had felt this way for the first time in my life at the top of a mountain in Lanzarotte, one of the Canary Islands, three weeks before. My friend Gina and I had hiked up a shield volcano, about 20 million years old and reminiscent of a moonscape. As we relaxed on the mountaintop, I received an unusual message through my body and soul. I was going to meet the man I was going to marry next month. I felt tingling radiate down my arms and into my fingertips and chest. What I felt was magnetic. It entered my chest and filled it with a humming energy. A buzzing vibration traveled throughout my body, down my arms, and into my fingertips, pulsing and radiating. I informed Gina: “I just got that I’m going to meet the man I’m going to marry in a month”. Gina and I both laughed at the absurdity of the experience because I wasn’t even dating anyone at the time, let alone thinking about marriage. Fat chance this was going to happen!

This was an example of a multi-sensory vision that occurred after I had held the criteria in my mind of the man who I could commit to. These criteria were the visualized hoop to shoot at. But the actual profound experience in Lanzarotte was another experience altogether. It was a Vision with the capital V. The multi-sensory experience which comes as a surprise, as a rush, an intuition much deeper, which threw my body out of control. It’s like falling, beyond your control into another realm, like the Voice happened in my dream or the transcending Bliss Experience. The Vision in Lanzarotte I had also quickly doubted, laughed at and dismissed as absurd, because it could not be explained on a rational level. Yet a part of me remained open did not shut the door to the energy and excitement clearly felt in the Vision on the mountaintop.

When Matt and I first saw each other, I knew he knew me down to my soul. As soon as he walked towards me, the sensations I had experienced in Lanzarotte happened again. The tingling, radiating, pulsating down my arms and fingertips, my chest. Uncanny, wild, absurd! Especially since the person before me seemed very young and not the sophisticated type with whom I could see myself in partnership. I was amazed by my reaction. I had never had such a strong response to a person before (or since, for that matter). I watched this encounter in amazement, detached yet more alive than ever before. The body comes alive when the soul is ready. My body showed me the way of the soul before my mind had even grasped what was happening. My brain was mocking the experience, saying, Yeah, right; I’m not seriously thinking there is a possible connection. I knew how much time was involved in getting to know someone, developing romances, overcoming power struggles, and determining compatibility. It seemed daunting. I didn’t think I was ready to take all that on again until I met Matt. During lunch we sat beside each other, making polite conversation and learning about each other. He was educated, an outdoor enthusiast with an eternal boyish appearance. As the savvy businesswoman, I was feeling sophisticated and smart. But we were both kind of awed when we watched my boss’ jaw drop. He could see the connection between us immediately. The energy between us was visible, palpable, and touchable. All three of us looked at each other startled. To my credit, I did not close the door. I resisted the urge to discount my radiating experience; therefore, my pathways stayed open and the mystery could unfold as it was meant to. I was open to the idea that my soul knew something my brain did not.

Eighteen years later, I started to write this book for our daughter, who is now in her early teens. However, our daughter came to represent all children of her generation, at a time in which there is the greatest possibility for the destruction of the planet or the greatest intentionally stewarded transformation of the planet. This book is written for all the children, all the parents, and all the grandparents who know that we are building a bridge now from the old paradigm of linear thought to a new paradigm, which includes the spectrum of sensitivity, intuition and vision.

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